The 5 things I did learn in the 2 months…

So, the one thing I learned during the two months was that parental alienation can be mitigated, but the damage to the child is permanent. These children will never be “normal” again, the alienating parent has literally stolen that from them forever, and it can never be gotten back.  Meg stopped at nothing during our court ordered time together to divert, distract, and outright stop them.  But I overcame for the most part.

The first thing I learned is that she hates her mother for jamming her in the middle of her mother’s hatred of me, but that she is too afraid of her mother to do anything about it.  she has been taught to hate, and she can’t easily get past the hate.  She had been fed hate for me and my family morning noon and night for over two years, and she just assumed that all people hated like her mother.  The second thing is that she has not slept in 2 years.  When I found this out I took her to the doctor, but it was too late by then.  Clearly I wasn’t supposed to know it, but she couldn’t hide it.  Sleep deprivation is central to the plans of the abusers like Meg Allen and her assistants like Michele Frost. The third thing I found out is that she had no actual friends.  No best friend, no close friend, no one.  Her mother had convinced her that she was better than all the people she’d grown up with, and she didn’t need any friends anyway, because they would only try to take advantage of her mother.  The fourth thing I learned is that she had perfected the art of stealing from other kids, their parents, and had perfected how to “borrow money” from people and never pay it back.  The fifth and last major thing I learned is that she had learned to say “I’m sorry” to people even though she didn’t mean it.  Several times we learned how she deliberately harmed people and took things from them, and then just said sorry even though she wasn’t the least bit sorry…

Amazingly, this was played out right in front of me, and no one cared.  At the end of the 2 months, the judge ruled that Sydney could go with her mother to America, we had crashed through some of the ice, but it was so thick, both Janet and I agreed that it was hopeless… Her mother had promised her membership to a country club in Dallas, new golf clubs, trips back to see me whenever she wanted, and a host of other things that never could or would come true…

So, I didn’t realise just how gone she was…

The school meeting ended up with Sydney proclaiming how much she was looking forward to school next year, and how pleased she was with her school.  And then 2 weeks later I get the notification that  her mother is taking and moving to Dallas and I will officially never see her again.  Her mother is not requesting a court hearing, nothing.  Just notifying me from some bizarre distended logic that crawled around inside her head that said you probably have to notify him that this was going on…  Now most of you reading this would think, well no one could possibly think this…  We have joint parental responsibility for Sydney, and she just decides that I will both officially and unofficially never see Sydney again.  What???

Of course, without hesitation I am back in the High Court again…  Our normal Judge wasn’t there, but it took the sitting High Court Judge of the day all of 60 seconds to inform Meg Allen that you can’t just do this, you have to have permission of the court to just up and take a child to another country for the purpose of not seeing the other parent every again.  She claimed that she was being promoted by Oracle, her employers to a new job in America, which was of course a ruse.  So, then we are on the court treadmill once again.  Evidence, statements, hearings, blah blah blah…  And all I wanted was to see my daughter again in this lifetime, not too much to ask you would have thought…

The Most Crucial Damage Sets In…

So in 2010, May 4th became July 4th became September 4th almost overnight…  I never saw Sydney that summer, her mother stopped her from going to camp, and everything else I’d planned for her.  Why you ask?  To show that she could…  Once CAFCASS stepped in as co-guardians of Sydney, I thought that things might actually move to some truth in the situation, man was I wrong…  The first thing CAFCASS did was orchestrate the psych evaluation of Sydney, her mother and me with one of the top shrinks in the country, Dr. Sally…  She got right in there and figured out the truth about what was going on.  They quickly sorted out that Sydney’s mother is a narcissistic sociopath obsessed with “beating me” by dominating Sydney.  She judged quite clearly that Sydney needed (and still needs) both parents in her life.  Meg Allen had (and still has) no regard for what the top children’s psychologist in the UK said.

Meg Allen arrived in the UK less than penniless, and was treated like a queen for over 10 years. She left a multi-millionaire.  Most humans who are not mentally ill would have said “thank you”, but not her…  To her great fortune and delight, she managed to link up with several of the Social Services personnel who not only shared her hatred for all men, but were able to lend a stout hand to really now ramp up the emotional abuse.  So, for the next few months, through November 2010, Sydney had to live with 24/7 of “your father does this/your father does that”…  Dozens and dozens of times every waking hour.  Social Services were well aware of it, and what did they do?  Yes, absolutely nothing…

So, stop the ranting David, the point being?  Children, especially special needs ones who are inordinately subject to relentless emotional abuse almost all end up with the “Stockholm Syndrome”…  It’s a pretty well known malady, it’s when a captive prisoner starts to identify with their captors, and eventually becomes one of them.  About 40 years ago in the US, a very famous girl named Patty Hearst was kidnapped by a fanatical leftist group called the Symbionese Liberation Army.  Eventually she got brainwashed into believing their rhetoric and joining them. Their chance of a normal life after that?  Asymptotically approaching zero…  What mother would ruin the life of a child to win a fight that only she created?  Fill in the blanks yourselves…

The Role of CAFCASS

Once Amy brought forward the issue that Sydney was being inundated with how to hate her father in every way possible, her bosses at CAFCASS determined that something had to be done to have an even plausible possibility of counteracting the emotional abuse of her mother. So, we all get hauled back into court again, because CAFCASS determined that they had to be made guardians for Sydney as well as me and her mother.

Judge Hughes couldn’t be there, so we had one of the most senior High Court Judges for the day. Now this was interesting because both Meg and Social Services were completely crazed at the concept of CAFCASS being guardians… This could throw a wrench into the emotional abuse plans, and there were some very big plans… So, Meg actually brings Sydney to court, and had her stashed at a close by coffee shop with her assistant abuser Michele Frost, and tried to get her thrown on the court to demonstrate how good emotional abuse can be. How good it can be??? The judge was apoplectic…

In the middle of the whole thing, when Meg had the chance to speak, the first thing she brought up was that she keeps getting arrested for driving without a driving license, because I apparently had told the police that she drives without a driving license or insurance. So the judge says, Mrs. Allen, do you have a UK driving license? She says no, but… And then the judge jumps in, completely stunned, and demands to know why not??? So she says, I just don’t have time… He then asks how long she’s lived here? She says, oh, about 15 years… He then can’t believe this could be possible, 15 years??? So, he then asks her if is is how she does everything, and she boldly says yes…

With that the judge gives CAFCASS their order, and they get a second order for Sydney to be evaluated by the top Child Psychologist for learning disabled kids, Dr. Sally. Ad he also demands she get a driving license…

The Hate Song

So, in June 2010 we go to court and Social Services uses their power to get a temporary order banning me from seeing my daughter, as she needs protection.  They are never asked to provide any documentation to show this, they just do it…  At the same time CAFCASS was having one of their bi-annual shakeups where half the people are moved or fired for some reason, and a new woman named Amy gets assigned to the case who promptly takes a look at the whole situation and smells something wrong with the process.

Amy takes Sydney out for cold drink at a local restaurant, and Sydney has this new “Hate Song” about her daddy that she wants/needs to share with Amy.  As she is going through the hate song written out for her in her mother’s handwriting, she has to ask Amy what one of the words means.  What one of the words means???  Whilst Amy was a pretty junior member of CAFCASS, and although she was born at night, she had not been born the previous night…  The light goes on, and she asked Sydney who really wrote the song???  Quickly Sydney broke right down and told her the truth that her mother had made her do this.  Sydney hadn’t really learned to lie well yet, she was 13 at the time, and was approximately a couple years behind the other kids her age, as she has global learning delays and was in fact in a special needs school in Camberley.  She made sure that she told Amy that she was not going to see me again because her mother had decided this.

Being the novice she is, Amy goes right back to her supervisors and goes through the whole thing who then demand an immediate court date with Judge Hughes to bring this forward to her, they decide to make themselves a party to the proceedings, a subject for the next few days…