So, back to the story…

Sorry I haven’t written all week, the only problem about writing about parental alienation is that it is quite easy to get sidetracked, as there is more and more coming out about it every day the abusers may some day be unable to hide…

So, the story started on the 4th May 2010 when my ex-wife decided I should never see my daughter again.  The first and most important part of the abuse by Social Services is to establish that there are two equally at fault parties in the conflict, regardless of the fact there is no truth to any of it.  The second part is to eliminate any hint of truth to the process.  After having all my rights violated on the 4th May and threatened with arrest for breathing, I returned again on the 6th May to pick Sydney up from school, and again there were loads of police and Social Services people there to again give me the vapour test to see if I was still guilty of breathing.  Having determined that, I was again threatened with arrest but this time told that the matter had been referred back to Judge Hughes by them…  I thought, well, that’s ok, because I haven’t done anything wrong, but then I forgot about that vapour test…

So, the weird thing about children’s issues here in the UK, is that you actually have two agencies involved: County Social Services (for the county you live in), and CAFCASS, which is the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service and cuts across all geographies.  They advise the courts with this 7 step welfare checklist that they apply to every case, in spite of the fact that it is at least 30 years old and most of it is summarily irrelevant in today’s cases.  There are no provisions for “special needs” or learning disabled kids, they didn’t have any then…  If you type their name into Google you can see their potted history, most of it quite shocking.  The guy assigned to us, Mark was on the verge of retirement and just wanted a quiet life.  He was the one that originally investigated the beatings of Sydney by her mother and concluded that it was really no big deal and that since she promised not to do it again it was really ok.  Now if it had been me doing the beating, then I would have already been jailed for 10 years, and the matter of me ever seeing my daughter again would have already been over.  Mark was a genuinely nice guy who genuinely did not want to know…

Of course, May 4th becomes June 4th in the blink of and eye, things do not move quickly in the courts system.  And then I am given the Social Services report listing the 21 items of abuse I somehow supposedly have carried out against my daughter and the protection she needs from me.  When I read the report, I was quite sure I was reading a report about someone else, because there wasn’t the slightest shred of truth in any of it, but then that didn’t matter I’d passed the vapour test.  One evening, a few months before all this, we had let Sydney watch her favourite programme with Miley Cyrus in it, in her room and have her dinner whilst watching tv as a special reward for a great job she had done in school.  One time, and only as a special reward.  And then here I am reading the Social Services report as to how Sydney has never eaten dinner with us, how she is forced to eat dinner in her room by herself alone every night with no tv or anything else.  The other 20 items were equally bizarre, several of which I was not in the country for at the time…  At no time was any evidence presented to any of it.  Why? Because none existed…

Did anyone care?  Not in the slightest…  those were their lies and they were sticking to them…  Did they want to hear the other side of the story?  What other side?  Mate, you are a bloke and you passed the vapour test, what other side would there be???  I even got our County Councillor Denis Fuller to go with me to see the “main man” at Social Services, who said and did nothing…  Sydney needed protection and that was that…

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